Resolution vs. Intention

Happy New Year! As a tradition we all often start a resolution list for the new year. How we want to change,the things we promise to start or stop doing. The list we hold ourselves to that promises perfection. The problem is we are already perfect exactly the way we are, and failure to see that and accept it leads to imaginary failure and self defeat and these lists usually only last a month or so. We do so great when we come racing out of the gates on January 1, only to realize we have an image in our heads of someone else we could never be and is not who we really are. Truth is we need to be ready for these changes in order to be successful at them, and the start of a new year is simply not a good enough reason. So, instead of a resolution this year, why not create an INTENTION list? Write down the things you intend to have or want...realistically? The more you write them and think about them the more chance you have at manifesting them.Accept yourself the way you are and work at changing things one at at time. Know that the way you are now is perfect.When you create a resolution list, you are constantly thinking about one thing...failure.Right? You are never thinking about accomplishing your goals...you are thinking about NOT FAILING at your goals. Big difference. You are constantly thinking about failure. So in truth, you are manifesting failure with your intentions, anyway. What you think about,you bring about. Remember the law of attraction? So since you will be manifesting and intending anyway, why not do it the more positive,more productive way?Start be writing down positive affirmations about yourself. Create a list of 5 things you really like about YOU.Accept yourself the way you are with these affirmations and really read them aloud to yourself over and over. Close your eyes and really feel how good these things are about you. Now write one thing you would like to change, but realize it is also a loving part of you as well. Then write a specific way you would like to go about changing this one thing. Create a clear cut plan of what you will do different that will get you one step closer to your goal. Most people continue to do the same things over and over out of habit, so change your routine. Go to a different store, make new friends, join new groups,etc. You will be surprised how easily new routines can be created. Always remember no matter what, everything is always perfect and always unfolds as it should. Whatever is meant to be will always find it's way. I love you! Happy 2011!
Namaste,Renee

Selfishness....to be or not to be?

Are you selfish? Do you spend the majority of your time doing for everyone BUT yourself? Why? Guilt? Because you don't do it without complaining do you? Think about it. You do it, but while you're doing it for the kids, for the spouse, for work, for friends, you are complaining about it. You're not happy about it. But if you don't, you are filled with guilt. Ever stop and think about why? Could it be that you have been conditioned into believing it's selfish not to be this way? It's selfish to think of yourself first right? You can't say no. It's selfish. I know, trust me, as a single mother most of my children's lives, it's difficult to put yourself first. And yet all the people that you are breaking your back for, are thinking of themselves first,and, are for sure not doing the same for you. So why is it so hard for you? I want to help you realize that the most UNSELFISH thing you can do is think of yourself first. To put yourself before before anyone else allows you to love YOU. It affords you the ability to be your best. In fact, it is completely selfish to NOT think about yourself first. You are depriving people of all of you. You can't completely be you if you are not happy. Think how much better you would be if you did things you really wanted to do. What if you made time for you?You would be a happier person for all who love you. For your kids. You would be more productive at work. You would be healthier due to a lower stress level. You have nothing to offer anyone when you are miserable and unhappy. You can't give your all to anyone when you are not whole.You lose who you are because you are too busy doing things for everyone else. How could you possibly have a clue who YOU are anymore? All driven by guilt. Did you know guilt isn't even a real emotion? Ego based and made, and no one can make you feel this way except your ego driven consciousness. You feel guilt when you feel like you are not living up to someones else's expectations of what you should be. Well, who decides that? Who makes those guidelines? YOU DO! And the only person you have to impress is you. You are never responsible for anyone else's opinion of you. You are only responsible for you. Drop the guilt. Give yourself permission to to be all you can be for your family, and most of all, for you by being SELFISH!

Finding Your Purpose...

How do you find your purpose? You will also hear this referred to as your dharma.Why are you here? What should you do with your life? Well that all depends on you. I get asked this question more than any other. I think we put too much effort into trying to figure out what our purpose is. It’s really very simple but it requires you to be 100% completely honest with yourself. What do you like to do? What makes your heart fill with joy when you do it? If you could think of one thing you would like to do if money were no object, and you were free to do anything, what would that be? There is no separation from what you love to do and what your purpose is. They are one in the same. It will make work feel like pleasure. All the time. Now please don’t get confused, just because it’s your purpose, doesn’t mean it wont involve hard work. Your purpose doesn’t mean being lazy. It just means the work will be fulfilling to you. You will feel free. You will know when its your purpose. It will feel right. It will just “fit”. And it has nothing to do with income. The amount of money you make once you find your purpose has nothing to do with it being right. There are plenty of millionaires that are unhappy and feel like they should be doing something else. If you do what you love, the money will inevitably come. Bill Gates didn’t start tinkering with computers because he wanted to be a millionaire. It was just what he loved. Oprah didn’t become a reporter because she knew it would make her one of the richest women in history. It was what she loved and she knew she could contribute through the media. This is what you are looking for. Your purpose will usually involve a contribution in some way. Otherwise, why would it be a purpose? We were given purposes to help each other while we are in a physical form. They also fill our checklist of lessons we are trying to learn in the spiritual form. One of the lessons I needed to learn, which was very difficult to me, was to stop ignoring my purpose. I would always lose jobs. Good jobs, too! I have never been at the same place of employment for longer than two years. It was never meant for me to be there. The universe had bigger plans for me. Once I realized this and started teaching, the info came very easy to me. There is a lot of time consuming, hard work in what I do, but I love it. I love that I have been given a gift of not only knowing the things I know, but to be able to share it brings me joy like nothing else I have ever done in my life. I absolutely love it an will never stop doing it. Now that’s a purpose! When you find your purpose, please let me know what it is, I love hearing these stories of life transformations. And finding your purpose is a huge first step in starting that transformation.